I had a chance to sit down and get some writing done…
I’m currently on a plane to Cali to attend a surprise graduation/ birthday party for one of my besties ( surprise G!), hoping I don’t end up with some other sort of illness to bring home. I get to see my family, my Obasan (Japanese for Grandma), and my aunt and Uncle since they’re in town too. And, again, my besties. We never saw each other this much when I lived in Cali, so maybe this move was legit after all? Since I’ve been MIA for a while, I thought I’d take this quiet, alone time to catch you up and maybe get some sleep. So here we go…
I was 8 months pregnant in August when we arrived in Michigan with baby two, another surprise gender baby, on the way.
Our very first visitor was my aunt who was out here on a work trip. It was so great to see a familiar face so close to our move date.
Next, I tried my best to get the house in order, keep AJ entertained, and not stress about being so far away from family and friends with a new baby coming.
Late September my in-laws arrived for their planned two week stay to give us some help when baby arrived. A week later my parents arrived for what was supposed to be a quick weekend visit for baby’s arrival.
My due date, September 29, came and went. No baby! We all had in our minds that this one would be early since AJ was, but nope. Five days later, on October 5, and after our parents kept extending their stay, our surprise gender baby was born. Another boy, Emmett Christopher made his debut, quite quickly after being admitted to the hospital. Two hours after being admitted and 10 minutes of pushing (which felt like an eternity because I waited too long to get drugs, so natural is how it all went down). And, to be honest, the contractions were worse than the actual pushing part. Maybe it’s because those lasted so long, I’m not sure. Either way, Emmett arrived at 4:15am, EST, surprising us all that HE wasn’t a SHE! For some reason we all just assumed a girl would be next, nope. I think in my mind everyone got one of each. After thinking about it, I know more couples with same gender kids than not.
After our discharge from the hospital, we brought Emmett home to meet his big brother, AJ. Not going to lie, that made me sob like a toddler who didn’t get to watch monster jam at his discretion (I may or may not be referencing my own child). I was so fearful that AJ would feel like we were kicking him to the curb and that he would be devastated we could no longer give him all the attention, all the time. I felt guilty for bringing this new baby home. I wanted to do anything I could to let AJ know we’d never let him feel any different. The thing that really put the wrench in my heart was getting home and AJ kept saying “baby Emmett.” Our parents were teaching him to say it while we were in the hospital. It was the cutest thing ever. Again, sobbed like a little baby. And, you know what, AJ has adapted so well; to the move, to Emmett, maybe not so much the snow, yet, but there will be enough around for a while to get him used to it.
My parents left the next day, since their 4 day trip turned into 9 days and had plans to return at the end of October to visit and help us, instead of going to their planned Hawaiian trip. I mean who wouldn’t want to trade Hawaii for Michigan? My in-laws stayed for about a month total. Can I just say that I’m so grateful to have in-laws I enjoy having around for a month! I mean, they practically took care of AJ the whole time, cooked and cleaned, let us get as much rest as we could before and after Emmett arrived. We sure do enjoy the time we get with our parents. Now that they’re so far from us, it’s extra special when they are around.
Nick went back to work right after his parents were gone, so it was just me juggling the two boys, alone, for the first time in a month, all. day. long. Goodness that took some getting used to. Like, who do I feed when they’re both hungry? Who do I comfort when they’re both crying? Whose diaper do I change first? I started wondering why I thought one baby was so hard. I immediately felt like a total idiot complaining about how hard one kid was. I was like that was a piece of cake, this two kid business is out of hand!
After that week, my parents arrived and took care of us in the same fashion my in-laws did – cooking, cleaning, caring for AJ. By this time we were starting to get into some kind of routine and adjusting to life as a family of four. My parents left a week later and we only had one last group of visitors on the calendar, my besties!
The following weekend, Nick went to a bachelor party in New Orleans (I totally gave him the okay to go and have fun with his boys; he deserved it). Emmett was one month old at this point. This was the perfect weekend to have my ladies come visit. So, the same night Nick was heading out, the girls arrived at the house. Does anyone else have friends they haven’t seen in a while, but it feels like you just pick up where you left off on your last visit? If so, isn’t it the best? I’ve had the same group of friends since high school, which was, dare I say, 19 years ago! There’s always a ton of laughter and they’re always down to help out in anyway they can. They too helped with AJ, got up in the middle of the night to ask if I needed help, went to Target with me and helped me deal with an over tired toddler who was having a meltdown. It was their time to go and that is when the homesick sank in.
It was then that I realized I live across the country from all of my family and friends. I can’t drive two hours to every event anymore. I can’t meet up for brunch or dinner with them. I can’t pack up the car and stay with with my parents for a week. Nope, this was my new life. Suck it up buttercup, you can do this, is what I kept telling myself. I feel like if anyone can handle this move, it’s me.
A few weeks later it was AJ’s 2nd Birthday, however we didn’t celebrate much. He woke up with some stomach bug that left him needing a bath as soon as he woke up on his birthday. (I’ll spare you the grimy details). I felt terrible for him. That weekend we were going to celebrate with his favorite dinner and brownies, but then he got sick, again. So, a week after his birthday he finally opened presents which we thought would make him feel better and it did, as much as it could.
Next up, Thanksgiving and Christmas. It was our little family of four for both holidays. We missed our families, but got a FaceTime session in with everyone. We took a quick weekend trip to Frankenmuth to explore the largest Christmas Store in the World, Bronners and walk around checking out the sites in the cute Bavarian town. I had my first ever White Christmas! I was so excited. I love the look of the snow. It really makes everything so beautiful. Everything looks so clean and fresh. It was the first year AJ really started to understand the whole Christmas concept. He became quite fond of the “PPS” (UPS) man that kept coming with boxes of goodies, almost all addressed to him. We put up the tree and in the mornings when we would turn on the lights he would say “hi chritmas.” He enjoyed seeing Santa from a distance at the mall. We didn’t torture him with Santa photos this year. Maybe next time, mainly because I want to see him freak out, but I also don’t enjoy all the germs that comes along with a visit to Santa. Still he says “thank you Santa” when he plays with his gifts from Santa. In fact he does that with most gifts. He will say thank you “persons name” while he’s playing with the gift they got him. It’s so cute. And, it makes us proud as parents that he’s polite.
A few days after Christmas my besties and I met up in Viva Las Vegas for two days to see Britney Spears; we may have added a Magic Mike show in there last minute too. It was like high school all over again and I loved every minute of singing along to her songs. Even though we may have done more live singing than she did, it was still a good time.
I arrived back home only to be taken out by the flu; the one the flu shot doesn’t cover apparently, that would be Influenza A, in case you’re wondering. So what turned into a quick trip and back to hop back into mommy mode, refreshed after reuniting with my girls, turned into me being laid up in bed for an extra 5 days not being to get up and do anything. The next thing I knew, it was 2018! Am I the only one who thinks the way you are spending the last night of the year at midnight is how you’re upcoming year is going to be? Cause now I’m like “great, I’ll be sick in bed all year.” Unfortunately that’s been the case so far.
I do my best to get AJ and I out to socialize and play, but it seems to keep coming at the expense of our immune systems. If one more person tells me “it’s good for them to be sick now so they aren’t as sick later,” I’m going to lose my shit. I get it, but I’m over it. Did you hear me viruses, OVER IT! Cause the day after taking him to a new indoor play structure he caught yet another virus. Then passed it on to Emmett and lastly mama, aka, me. I’d say in the last three months we have been healthy about two weeks, total. Luckily I avoided giving anyone the flu at home; thanks Vegas, ya did me dirty, and not in the good way.
That brings us up to speed. We met with a realtor today to start prepping for our home search. The biggest “problem” we are facing in our search is that there are too many good areas with too many good schools to choose from! If that’s the worse of our problems we are doing really well for ourselves. We are looking forward to becoming owners again, ’cause this renting thing ain’t the business for us. And, I want to set down roots and finally decorate a house and have the boys in their actual own rooms. AJ has now started to say “not ours.” Yes, because if you break the blinds or write on the wall, we get in trouble kid. I’m just ready for something to be ours. So in the event he does break something or write on the wall, we can fix it at our discretion and much quicker than dealing with the chain of command to get things done.
All in all, we are doing well and can’t complain about this journey in our life. We do miss our family and friends terribly, but you’re all just a plane ride away, albeit a car ride was much easier to get to each other.
Stay up-to-date on my IG account, milknmimosas, for what’s to come (Arizona/Palm Springs, Monster Jam, Cancun, and house hunting to name a few).
Anyway, that’s what The Horton Four have been up to recently. We hope everyone has a fantastic, healthy 2018!